they said that it is so standard to see in porn

In my first year of uni we were going out all the time and I was going through a big phase of making out with guys when we were at bars/clubs - just trying to explore and get comfortable with guys and with my sexuality.

There was this period where every time I kissed someone they would grab my neck within the first couple seconds and strangle me, literally in the middle of the dance floor.

It was really confusing because I felt really small but like I was meant to be okay with it because it was sexy.

Eventually I stopped kissing guys in clubs which of course isn’t a terrible thing but I found it very weird that they thought it was so normal that it was an acceptable thing to do surrounded by people.

I asked my friends I was going out with and they said that it is so standard to see in porn that they had also thought that strangling was just part of having sex when they were a teenager.

Amy